human unity part ii. (hatred)

8:03AM I've been awake since 6 or something. Here is a picture of a breadcat because I just felt that no one would read and I think the things I say might be useful or even insightful to people who like to think. That's all. Mostly because I think I've had enough sleep over the past few days and my body is allowing me to be awake more. It's raining again and so, the weather is absolutely perfect because I really can't think when it's sunny.

I think in all the silly political disarray at the moment that this post should come in nifty/useful/handy. At 11, being a child who felt like they had no friends, I picked up "How To Win Friends And Influence People (For Teenage Girls)". Lol I know I was 11 but there was no child version because I don't think any other 11 year olds would be picking up books on how to make friends. Anyways, the tip that has always really struck me from the book (because I never read it that far) was that you should always look at other people's paradigms. In absolutely simple terms, it is to put yourself entirely in someone else's shoes. 

At first this sounds really oversaid and overdone. But there is so much hatred all over the world that I feel the need to explain what it means to me. (if it helps other people) Hatred, a word that genuinely means to be passionate about disliking someone is really very silly. There are going to be people in this world who behave in a certain way that will annoy you and the people who are going to do things to you that would "disrespect your existence" as I love saying.

Make excuses for the people who annoy you. I think that it's easiest just to remember that the other person is a person too with feelings and history and a memory. If they exhibit behavior that annoys you, come up with an excuse for why they're behaving that way. For example, someone on the street who bumps into you could've been having a really really bad day or could've just never been taught that bumping into people was bad because in some countries, it really just IS the way to get around when there are too many people. On a more personal level, let's just say...a friend said something offensive about you behind your back or you just don't like how a friend is behaving. I don't know. I've just been facing this a lot lately.

If that person is a friend, I really don't think they would say something behind your back or cause something bad to happen to you on purpose. I think there could be three possible reasons for this kind of situation a) your friend is clueless that you find it offensive b) your friend is doing it on purpose because they are annoyed with your behavior in some way c) you really just don't get along, but only come to this option when you've figured out if it was the other two. And the way to do this is to just talk.

A personal problem for me is that I don't talk to people much when I get annoyed with them because in the past, when I have tried to point out what has gone wrong or when I've started a conversation slightly angry, which I'm assuming is how things go since annoyance leads to anger, the situation is hard to diffuse if the other person is completely closed so I just run away and ignore people who annoy me. Even close friends.

But you know what? I really don't have very many problems with people I like. Maybe it's age, maybe it's maturity. Once you learn to let go of caring about your self, you're generally a happier person and you generally end up making everyone else happy too.

I think in the next few days to come I'll write about how to let go of your self (because I think letting go of caring about your self is very difficult) and about why learning has been construed by what the school system has become. Maybe I'll even write about religion, OoOoH.